What photos say about you at different times of day

When a woman receives a series of pictures from somebody, with only the briefest message, what is he trying to tell you?
Big ego? Self-obsessed?

Wants flattery?

Could be the opposite. Lacks self-confidence? Wants to be sure you like him before risking a date.

That he isn't as glamorous as his main picture?

That he's busy at work but hopes you'll stay interested until he gets around to calling you next week?

That if he send pictures which are half clothed and fully clothed he will find out what the recipient wants long term - or on a first date - which could be different.

One man sends one picture that a trick of the light made it look like he'd had a triple heart by-pass.

A face picture, even if he's not good looking, can be lovely. The smile makes all the difference. You feel he would be welcoming, fun to meet.

Remember the recipient of a photo is self-centred. They want to know how you will react when they meet you. Will you smile? Or glare?

Oddly enough, even on an 'adult' site, a full clothed photo strikes a better note when you open an email when you are at work.

You think, I'm at work. What is this guy doing all day? Unemployed, sitting at home playing with himself? Is this his main daytime activity?

Or does he love hiking? Or music?

But, again, you might think he's never at home at his city job but spends all his time hiking around the world.

One national newspaper's dating advice colour suggests a photo in a cemetery.

To me this is a definite no-no. A woman reads the headlines, such as Body found in cemetery (Don't laugh - I know cemeteries are full of bodies). On second thoughts, please laugh. I shall use this line in y stand up comedy tomorrow. Seriously, headlines read:' Woman murdered by man met on internet. ' Or 'Date rape'. Newspapers and internet news are full of stories of attacks and deaths. You don't want to be linked in her mind to any kind of scary thought. to my mind red flags or warning signs include photos of any weapon, whether it's on an army tank or something smaller. And anything to do with cemeteries is an absolute no-no. I'm surprised that anybody needs to be told this. Above all those connected with a newspaper.

The photo must reassure the reader that you are interested in them.

My rules:

1 Smile
2 Face the camera
3 Wear you smartest outfit
4 Wear what you will wear when you meet on a first date
5 No other adults in the picture -
6 No disembodied hands or cut in half exes
7 Save nude pictures until after you already know somebody
8 No children or grandchildren - unless you intend taking them on the first date (to avoid attracting undesirables don't show minors). Gives the impression your kids need a mother or father. If so, you could say so. But send the photos when you have a candidate.
9 Would you like to meet the person in your photo?
10 If you don't like the way you look, change it. At least wear clothes which minimise your faults. Then at least the other person knows what they are getting and you know they are happy with you the way you really are.